I live with my girlfriend of 6+ years. Here’s a little background. She has three kids, ages 24 male, 21 female, and 17 male. The 24 year old lost his part time job about 2 years ago, started working a part time ,3 hours a night, job about a year ago. He just recently found a better job that is closer to full time,35 to 40 hours a week. The 21 year old got married and moved out about a year ago. She recently, 2 weeks ago, moved back in untill her husband gets back from his time in the Navy, sometime next summer. The 24 year old has never paid anything towards household expenses. The 21 year old has offered to help, but so far has only pitched in towards coffee and soda. The 17 year old occasionally says he will find a job when it is mentioned to him, but hasn’t shown any real inclination to do so. My girlfriend works 24 hours a week at a sandwich delivery job and gets a survivor benefit check  (her husband died 8 years ago) for the 17 year old. Its $825 a month and will be running out when the youngest turns 18 this spring. I work full time + occasional overtime as a cook for a state care facility and make $13.25 an hour. The plan is for the 2 oldest to move out, possibly together,  before this S.S.money runs out. When her husband gets back they are going to get their own place and leave her brother to find a place of his own or keep the one they are supposedly going to rent together.I have asked her to ask the 2 oldest to contribute $200 a month each untill this happens.  She has told them she wants them to contribute $100 per month each. Her logic is that this will enable them to save more and move out quicker. I don’t have much say in this. They are her kids, apparently I’m just supposed to help pay the bills, buy groceries and and keep my mouth shut. None of these kids has ever followed through with anything in their lives. The oldest 2 did graduate from high school, but even though their deceased grandmother left them enough money to go to college, they show no interest in doing so. Well, that isn’t entirely true. The 21 year old signed up for beauty school a couple years ago. She has been forced out of the original school because of poor attendance. Apparently she is eligible to continue her classes with another school, but she hasn’t taken any steps to do so. Sometimes I wonder why I am here. The fact of the matter is I really do love my girl friend. I am a recovering alcoholic/ addict and she was always there for me when I needed her support, financially and emotionally. I have been clean and sober for three years now. I move in after my last stint at rehab. (110 days) This was three years ago. I have watched the household income on her end steadily decrease by her losing the SS benefits for the 21 year old  and losing a  32 hour a week position and going to a lower paying job with fewer hours. I had initially told her she didn’t need to work full time.In the mean time, I have gotten 2 promotions. We have agreed that she will have to find a full time job soon. She is going to have to make up for the missing $825 check with her new job. I cannot continue to work the overtime time I do. I’m 51, and I’m tired. I have a problem that I’m not sure how to address. Right around the time that the SS check stops,I will be done paying an attorney $350 a month. I was hoping to either put that money into my retirement account, or use some of it for monthly payments on a newer car, or some of both. I feel that everytime something negative happens to her income level, I am the one that picks up the slack. I never complained about this before, but I am really starting to feel resentful about this. I have already taken out a $10,000 bank loan and bought an  car for her. I make the payments. She isn’t able to get one on her own. I also pay for the auto insurance on both of our vehicles, buy the majority ofthe groceries and give her money towards the other bills.Hopefully this situation will improve after the 2 oldest move out, if they ever do. In the mean time I guess I just have to put up with it.